Episode 11 Remaking the Sandwich Generation
Eve McClennen, an Aging Life Care Manager, joins us to discuss the impact aging parents can have on us as we enter mid-life, especially if we have begun to focus on ourselves as our children begin to leave the nest. Women tend to take on more of the care of aging parents, while simultaneously not spending enough time taking care of their own emotional and health needs.
Eve offers excellent advice on the need to prepare for the future, including setting up estate planning, understanding the financial ramifications of caring for aging parents, and making sure advance health directives are in place. These can be difficult conversations to have, but having them is an act of love. Eve shares wonderful resources that can help ease the burden, and gently reminds us that we can't care for others if we don't care for ourselves.
Resources
Eve McClennen, Aging Life Care Manager
https://www.aginglifecare.org/
On Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
"It's Pretty Brutal": The Sandwich Generation Pays a Price--New York Times 2/11/20
The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family by Margareta Magnusson
NAELA--National Association of Elder Law Attorneys
Episode 10: Woman on the Remake: Coming Back After Life Knocks You Down
Ashley is a former lawyer currently studying theology. Ashley faced a big personal remake at age 42. She shares the difficulties she faced in her marriage to a man with a substance abuse problem. She faced additional health issues resulting from exposure to black mold and even faced homelessness. It seemed nothing she was doing to "fix" her life was working.
She came upon a friend who asked if she had done any inner work, since it seemed the "outer" work wasn't helping. It was that day that began letting go of controlling the situation she was in, and came to trust that she was where she was supposed to be. She was able to reach a place of gratitude for what she DID have. She spent time working on being "present" and enjoying the small things.
The moment she reached a place of peace with where she was, the positive growth began to occur. Through intensive study of theology and physics, Ashley's personal philosophy began to evolve.
Books for Times of Crisis and Breakthrough
When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron (Buddhist nun)
The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell (great audiobook)
Detours by Tony Evans (Christian)
Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow by Elizabeth Lesser
A Return to Love: Reflections on Principles in A Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson
Anything written by Emmet Fox (Christian thinker)
Astrologers (You Tube)
Annie Botticelli
Nadiyah Shah
Molly McCord
Pam Gregory
Blog/Facebook/Instagram on Science/Religion/Metaphysics
The Sacred Scientist
My Favorite Twin Flame
Books on Science/Religion/Metaphysics
The Self Aware Universe by Amit Goswami (watch his videos)
The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Deepak Chopra
The Tao of Physics by Fritjof Capra
The Gnostic Gospels by Elaine Pa